Pregnant Bridesmaid
What You Should Do Regarding a Pregnant Bridesmaid
A pregnant bridesmaid does not have to be the stressful event that it might feel like. You've spent months preparing for your wedding and finally everything is in place. Suddenly, after a year of finding the perfect bridesmaids dresses, shoes, and accessories you receive a phone call that throws things off. What should you do?
On the one hand, you want to be really happy for her. On the other hand, you know that things are going to have to change.
The good news is, things don't have to change that much. In fact, depending on far along you pregnant bridesmaid is, things might not change much at all. If your wedding is in a month, for instance, and she just found out that she is pregnant then the only thing you're going to have to worry about is her morning sickness.
On the other hand, if your wedding is months away, then chances are she is going to be showing. There are a couple of things that you can do in this situation.
Chances are, you still want her to be your bridesmaid. There is no wedding etiquette that says pregnant women can't be part of a wedding party and even if there was, she's your friend and it's your wedding and you can do whatever you want.
Still, you should make sure that she still wants to be in the wedding. Some women are nervous about the way that they look when they are pregnant. Even though they might be beautiful to everyone else, they might feel self-conscious. You don't want her to feel embarrassed or unattractive so have a conversation with her about it. Let her know that you still want her to be in the wedding party and ask her how she feels about it.
If the wedding is several months off, then there's not much that you can do about her dress because you really have no idea what size she will be at the time of your wedding. What you can do is purchase a dress that is not form-fitting. You can also wait until a couple of weeks before the wedding, the closer the better, and pick out something then. There is formal maternity attire available.
It's okay if her dress doesn't match the other dresses in your wedding party. In fact, a little variety is always nice. As long as the colors match, or are complementary, then she won't stand out. If she is married, consider making her the matron of honor, which would give her a different dress style anyway.
On the day of your wedding, let your pregnant bridesmaid be as active as she wants to be. That is not the time for you to be demanding or for you to ask her to do anything for you. On the other hand, you should include her in things as well. If you are taking your girls out for a manicure, then make sure she comes along if she feels like it.
It would also be considerate of you to ensure that there are snack items available for her as well. While you and the rest of the gang might be sipping on champagne and eating chocolate éclairs, there should also be choices for your pregnant friend, too. Little details like that are thoughtful and considerate, even if it is your day.
In the long run, your wedding can be as stressful or as relaxing as you want it to be. A pregnant bridesmaid doesn't have to be a big event and it's something that can easily be worked around. Just have fun and enjoy your day and your friends.